The young mothers and fathers are concerned about the way to bring up their children, as they do not want their children to experience what they experienced in childhood, they want to provide the new generation more freedom and space to explore self-interests, and not force them to do things as a checklist in their life. It can be difficult to work with a Chinese family, as there has no clear boundaries or respect for agreements, I once took a college student as new patient on individual therapy, and instead of coming to my office by himself, the whole family: his mother, grandmother, aunt, and baby sister crowed in my office. There is no space for the boy to speak up for himself as each sentence was finished by his mother or grandmother.
Conclusions
To sum up, the oriental mind goes beyond language and logic, a Chinese character or poetry are not limited by language or rational principles, this systemic mindset had provided both opportunity and challenges on modern psychotherapy. The oriental unconscious is deeply affected by the earthbound social structure, it is the mission of psych professionals to reflect on their own cultural influence and search for a way inside. Then ancient philosophy theorists suggest embracing and merging with public and private, to create a safe space as poetry and think within that space, to ease oneself and keep harmonious as nature offers. There is no clear difference between individualization and collectivism, one is all, all is one.
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