My Friend is a Palestinian Bedouin:  XII. Individualism versus Collectivism. Friendships

My Friend is a Palestinian Bedouin: XII. Individualism versus Collectivism. Friendships

After my workshop, the next day, I go back to fetch them. From what I understand, it looks as if Bashar more or less managed to settle the dispute. I return the netstick, which had been very helpful, and take them home.

Postscript: Bashar himself was upset with the way in which I wrote this story, leaving out many of the things that seemed important to him. Days later, he added the following information. He did not at all intend to bring Akram along. Akram was supposed to help him to get over the wall, but suddenly wanted to join. Bashar did not feel comfortable saying no. He truly intended to come and see me, but on his way, he received a call that forced him to change his plans. He realized at the time that I would be upset, but did not want to give me the new and disturbing info in advance, and preferred to tell me face to face. He did not have the time to figure out how to get to Lod. Although telling people what to do is his general attitude, Bashar thought it was self-evident that I could refuse to take them, if I did not agree. He did not rely on me taking them and if I had refused, he would have thought of another way. Nonetheless, knowing me, he expected that I would understand the situation and help. Arriving in Lod, he did not want to involve me in the situation, considering it may become dangerous and that there may be fighting.


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Daniel WeishutDaniel J.N. Weishut, born in the Netherlands but living in Jerusalem, is a professional with a diverse background. He holds an MA in Clinical Psychology and an MBA in Integrative Business Administration, both from the Hebrew University in Jerusalem, and a PsyD in Clinical and Organizational Psychology from the Professional School of Psychology (Sacramento). He has about thirty years of experience in consultation and therapy with a wide variety of clients and issues, more than twenty years of practice in group facilitation, and over fifteen years of know-how in governance and management in various organizations. Daniel Weishut offers his services as a "Partner on the Way", while taking a world-view that people are diverse but equal. He works with a variety of clients, but his special interest is in work with those who have found themselves persecuted or otherwise in conflict with their social environment, because of their culture, identity or belief system. For example: migrants, expats, refugees, Holocaust survivors, soldiers, pacifists, and individuals from religious, cultural or sexual minorities. Daniel Weishut is a social activist and in this capacity he volunteers as Chairperson of the Israeli Association of Group Psychotherapy, as Member of the Membership Appeals Committee of Amnesty International and as forensic expert for the Public Committee Against Torture in Israel. He also is involved in raising awareness about the situation of Bedouins around Jerusalem; awareness which led among others to the writing of his dissertation "My friend is a Palestinian Bedouin: Challenges and opportunities in intercultural friendship".

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