My Friend is a Palestinian Bedouin:  XII. Individualism versus Collectivism. Friendships

My Friend is a Palestinian Bedouin: XII. Individualism versus Collectivism. Friendships

Only about a month later, he told me that the incident that created the upheaval was that Suleiman, while being drunk, had approached a Bedouin girl and expressed obscenities. This was an issue of blood and honor for her family, and for Lod’s Bedouin community as a whole. The Bedouins wanted revenge and Abdalla feared leaving his home. The Bedouins had beaten up Suleiman and injured him. Moreover, they kept him as hostage and threatened to kill him. Bashar believed that they would realize their threat in order to restore their honor. As a sheikh himself, he went to the sheikh of the Bedouins in Lod in the hope he could make him change the minds of Suleiman’s captors. The sheikh had known Bashar’s father. They drank coffee and Bashar asked the sheikh to intervene. Initially, he refused. Bashar went back and forth between the different parties. In an attempt to get Suleiman out of the hands of his captors, he suggested that they hand over Suleiman to the Sudanese and that his brother, Abdalla, will kill him by himself, but this was refused. They were willing to put Suleiman on a plane back to Sudan. Abdalla had to make a very difficult and painful decision, whether to return Suleiman to Sudan. They had fled their home country almost a decade before. Leaving Suleiman in the hands of his captors was a huge risk, so he had no real choice. The Bedouins bought a ticket and brought Suleiman to the airport, after which his whereabouts were lost. Over a year later, I learned that he had opened a tire-shop somewhere in Sudan.


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Daniel WeishutDaniel J.N. Weishut, born in the Netherlands but living in Jerusalem, is a professional with a diverse background. He holds an MA in Clinical Psychology and an MBA in Integrative Business Administration, both from the Hebrew University in Jerusalem, and a PsyD in Clinical and Organizational Psychology from the Professional School of Psychology (Sacramento). He has about thirty years of experience in consultation and therapy with a wide variety of clients and issues, more than twenty years of practice in group facilitation, and over fifteen years of know-how in governance and management in various organizations. Daniel Weishut offers his services as a "Partner on the Way", while taking a world-view that people are diverse but equal. He works with a variety of clients, but his special interest is in work with those who have found themselves persecuted or otherwise in conflict with their social environment, because of their culture, identity or belief system. For example: migrants, expats, refugees, Holocaust survivors, soldiers, pacifists, and individuals from religious, cultural or sexual minorities. Daniel Weishut is a social activist and in this capacity he volunteers as Chairperson of the Israeli Association of Group Psychotherapy, as Member of the Membership Appeals Committee of Amnesty International and as forensic expert for the Public Committee Against Torture in Israel. He also is involved in raising awareness about the situation of Bedouins around Jerusalem; awareness which led among others to the writing of his dissertation "My friend is a Palestinian Bedouin: Challenges and opportunities in intercultural friendship".

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