My Friend is a Palestinian Bedouin:  XIV. Meals and Other Celebrations

My Friend is a Palestinian Bedouin: XIV. Meals and Other Celebrations

The situation in Israel as regarding the particulars of weddings rather depends on the specific socio-cultural environment. In most social circles in Israel, a marriage is something primarily between two individuals; though in the ultra-orthodox community it is often arranged. Israeli weddings tend to have a few hundred guests, usually at one large happening. Jewish Israeli weddings in almost all circles include a religious ceremony, an abundance of food, and dancing.

My experience of “Meals and Other Celebrations”

I needed to learn how to eat in the Bedouin way with one’s hands, while using bread to “catch” other pieces of food. This in the beginning felt weird, but the food itself I much appreciated. As for celebrations, I greatly enjoyed the collective Bedouin style. I would look forward to attending the next festivity, and participate in many of its activities, including Bedouin style dancing. Neither Bashar, nor his Bedouin friends, would think of birthdays; not even their own. Therefore, I would remind them. I was much aware of Bashar’s lack of ease with Western ways of conduct around meals and celebrations, with Western etiquette. When other Europeans, Northern Americans or Israelis were involved, this put me at times in an uncomfortable position, feeling myself responsible to solve the discrepancies.


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Daniel WeishutDaniel J.N. Weishut, born in the Netherlands but living in Jerusalem, is a professional with a diverse background. He holds an MA in Clinical Psychology and an MBA in Integrative Business Administration, both from the Hebrew University in Jerusalem, and a PsyD in Clinical and Organizational Psychology from the Professional School of Psychology (Sacramento). He has about thirty years of experience in consultation and therapy with a wide variety of clients and issues, more than twenty years of practice in group facilitation, and over fifteen years of know-how in governance and management in various organizations.Daniel Weishut offers his services as a "Partner on the Way", while taking a world-view that people are diverse but equal. He works with a variety of clients, but his special interest is in work with those who have found themselves persecuted or otherwise in conflict with their social environment, because of their culture, identity or belief system. For example: migrants, expats, refugees, Holocaust survivors, soldiers, pacifists, and individuals from religious, cultural or sexual minorities. Daniel Weishut is a social activist and in this capacity he volunteers as Chairperson of the Israeli Association of Group Psychotherapy, as Member of the Membership Appeals Committee of Amnesty International and as forensic expert for the Public Committee Against Torture in Israel. He also is involved in raising awareness about the situation of Bedouins around Jerusalem; awareness which led among others to the writing of his dissertation "My friend is a Palestinian Bedouin: Challenges and opportunities in intercultural friendship".

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