Studio Six: Marriage Story

Studio Six: Marriage Story

Bill Bergquist

Notes taken by Bill Bergquist from the reflections offered during the Studio:

Successful long term intimate relationships require open space: a high level of acceptance (especially as members of the couple become fully acquainted with each other’s diverse styles, habits, aspirations, and feelings).

Members of a long-term couple might have to move beyond acceptance to forgiveness, as they come to recognize the way(s) they have made life more difficult for one another.

Those seeking a successful long term intimate relationship need to be aware of the expectations they place on the other member of the couple to meet their personal needs. Are the expectations realistic? Can you rely on your partner to meet all your needs?

It is important to be aware that roles can play people rather than people playing roles.

Many studies have shown that successful heterosexual relationships are found when wives are being listened to by their husbands (Carol Gillian’s In a Different Voice; Belenky et al. Women’s Ways of Knowing).

When there is a breakup (divorce) of a couple, we can expect a stage of mourning – for there is the death of the couple (as a third entity in the relationship). Other people associated with the couple (such as family members and friends) will resist the breakup and later mourn the death of the couple.





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William BergquistWilliam Bergquist, Ph.D. An international coach and consultant in the fields of psychology, management and public administration, author of more than 50 books, and president of a psychology institute. Dr. Bergquist consults on and writes about personal, group, organizational and societal transitions and transformations. His published work ranges from the personal transitions of men and women in their 50s and the struggles of men and women in recovering from strokes to the experiences of freedom among the men and women of Eastern Europe following the collapse of the Soviet Union. In recent years, Bergquist has focused on the processes of organizational coaching. He is coauthor with Agnes Mura of coachbook, co-founder of the International Journal of Coaching in Organizations and co-founder of the International Consortium for Coaching in Organizations.

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