Let’s return to the earlier scenario: new insights for Kevin about Sheila (the movement of material from Quad Four to Quad Three) have come from a therapeutic session, coaching engagement or training workshop. Kevin has examined his troubling relationship with Sheila. His perspectives have changed and he is reframing his own relationship with Sheila: Quad Three is changing. This Quad Three revision need not influence the size of any other quadrant, if the stabilized model is applied.
KEVIN
BEFORE AFTER
It is important to note that Quads One and Two remain the same size, even though they take on different shapes. These two quads remain “resilient” – adjusting as Quad Three expands, but not changing fundamentally, with regard to the content they hold or the influence they have over the relationship between Sheila and Kevin.
The stabilized model can also be applied to the selective disclosure of information by Kevin. He can select the specific information about himself that he shares with Sheila—resulting in reduction in the size of Quad Two and increase in the size of Quad One..
