This insight, however, isn’t shared with others. Not only are other people unaware of the growth, but they might also be perplexed (as friends and family members) with the seeming lack of change in the therapist despite the insight-rich analysis she has completed. Everything is kept inside. Nothing is out there for significant others to view. Similar tension may exist for people who have participated in a high-impact personal growth workshop that is very private (such as a Progoff Journal Workshop, meditation workshop, or extended stay at a Zen Retreat Center). After participating in one of these workshops, I might pose the following questions: “How much of the new self-insight do I want to share with significant other people in my life . . . especially since little of my new insights have come from other people. Are my new insights ‘wacko’? Will other people understand what I have learned, since my insights have been gained in isolation?”
Tension can be reduced by selectively sharing more of one’s private self—in an appropriate manner and at an appropriate time and space—thereby increasing the size of Quad One. One can also make use of feedback (Quad Two to Quad One) to determine the appropriate process, time, space and material to disclose. The stabilization model in this instance is transformed into the traditional Johari model:
Stabilized Model
Traditional Johari Model
