New Perspectives on Interpersonal Relationships
Richard Lim: Quantum and Caring
“In quantum science understanding, nothing is an object with a clear boundary and discreet existence. Everything is interdependent and interconnected. We co-emerge with everything else. In the eastern Buddhist understanding, the self doesn’t exist as a separate entity. In reality, we are energy embodying into seemingly concrete forms and shapes. In psychotherapeutic engagement, we experience intersubjectivity. As most therapists would testify, the process of working with our clients is essentially a deeply relational experience. And we do encounter lots of inconsistencies and irregularities in our clients and ourselves. This appears to be a big problem if you regard a person as one self with consistency until we are open to consider that perhaps we are not just one “I” and our clients are not just one ‘you’.”
Books Regarding Interpersonal Relationships
Several books concerning interpersonal relationships are also available at no cost:
The Fundamental Elements of Interpersonal Relationships
“Acknowledged as among the most insightful and useful models of human interaction, the Johari Window continues to be respected and often cited during the first years of the 21st Century. With more than 4.5 million sites on the Internet, this human interaction model is in high demand — yet nothing has been done to update the Johari Window since it was initially formulated by Joe Luft and Harrington Ingham on an Ojai California tree stump more than 50 years ago. The present book offered the first new, expanded version of the Johari Window. The New Johari Window provides fresh insights and useful concepts regarding human interaction, making use of now-classic concepts to be found in works written by a wide-ranging group of psychologists, psychiatrists and social analysts. This book also incorporates recent findings from the fields of social-cognitive psychology, social-neurobiology and behavioral economics.” This book is available For Free as a digital download.
Intimate Relationships
“What is the nature of enduring love–and how do we find this type of love? Some valuable lessons are to be found in Love Lingers Here: Stories of Enduring Intimate Relationships. As the subtitle of the book implies, Love Lingers Here concerns enduring intimate relationships that exist in our mid-21st Century world. Most books about couples are written by those doing couples therapy and are based on the assumption that successful couples are doing whatever the couples in therapy are not doing (called “pathological extension”). Love Lingers Here is based instead on interviews with more than 70 couples who have been together for many years (averaging 20 plus years together).” This book is available For Free as a digital download.
